I was fortunate enough to grow up on a farm and surrounded by animals. I have always been an animal lover but having a dog has taught me many life lessons. After years of education, Apollo has bestowed more knowledge, wisdom, and insight than a classroom ever could.
Kristie Overstreet PhD, LPCC, LMHC, CST
Do you feel that when life is going in a right direction, something comes along and derails your plan? Life has a funny way of reminding us that often we aren’t as in charge as we like to think. Sometimes external forces throw a monkey wrench in our plans. Other times we are the ones who sabotage areas of our lives.
When was the last time you asked yourself “Why did I do that?” Mainly if the action caused a problem for you or those you care about. Self-sabotage does not have to equal failure. You can learn how to stop self-sabotage for good by understanding the reasons behind it and following these tips.
On more than one occasion I have thought If I could just have an extra hour in the day I could get more done. If there were 25 hours in the day would I be more productive? This question stopped me in my tracks and gave me the opportunity to make a change in my life.
My awakening happened when I realized that adding another hour to the day wouldn’t equate to me being more productive. My ability to be productive didn’t depend on the hours in my day. It was directly associated with how I spent my hours in the day.
This realization was powerful for me and changed how I operate in every aspect of my life. Since I have made these changes, I have been able to achieve more of my goals and experience the feeling of completion at the end of the day. Here is how I made it happen and you can too.
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In last week’s post, I provided you with evidence of why you are good enough and can tackle anything in your life. This week in preparation for the end of 2017, I want you to avoid a New Year’s resolution and adopt a lifestyle change.
You make New Year’s resolution every year around this time. Do you remember what your resolution was for last year? Were you able to accomplish it? How long did you stay motivated to work on your resolution? You have spent too much time not reaching your goals. This year do something different. You need to avoid making a New Year’s Resolution and instead make a lifestyle change. I am now accepting clients for 1:1 coaching to create a lifestyle change, click here for more details. Here are the five steps to get the permanent changes you are looking for.
In last week’s post, I shared three steps on how to overcome your fear and get on with your life. Now that you have moved through your fears, it’s time to work on failure. Every one of us fail at things. Whether it is a relationship, friendship, work expectation, maybe even a goal that is set for the day. I fail at something every single day. Some of my failures are small and others are huge.
I have goals and deadlines for projects to keep me on track. When I fail at meeting a deadline, then my goal of completion is pushed back. This may not sound like a failure to you. However, this can send me spinning and throw my week completely out of whack.
When I miss a deadline, my entire work timeline goes down the drain. I then have to take extra time, revisit the issue, and revamp my timeline. I failed and now I have to spend the time I don’t have to start over.
You feel frustrated and irritated that you can’t accomplish your goals. You can’t figure out why you keep hitting a road block. Do you feel that you give it your all and you still can’t complete your goals? Have you thought about changing jobs? Have you tried to lose weight but can’t? Do you want to leave your unhealthy relationship but can’t decide what’s best?
Is your fear allowing you to remain stuck? If you are ready to take action to overcome your fear, and live your life, then these three steps are for you.
You are time poor. There aren’t enough hours in the day to get everything done that you want to accomplish. Your to-do list is growing by the minute and the plates you keep spinning seem to double in size. It’s likely that the last thing that you have time for is yourself.
What if I told you that it is possible to find an extra hour in the day just for you? This will take a little work but it will be worth it.
These 7 things are what I do every day to keep me grounded in a chaotic world.
As a therapist for over a decade, I am privileged to see a lot of human behavior. I like to think of it as the good, the bad, and the ugly. I have the opportunity to hear people’s darkest secrets and dirty laundry that often no one else will ever know. This is a gift from my clients that I don’t take lightly and cherish the confidential nature of our relationship.
It is in these times that I’m able to build trust with my clients and I’m here for them as a sounding board. However, many of my clients have a hard time being honest with them.
The idea of being honest with yourself can be terrifying. Think about it, if you have to be honest that means you may have to change and it’s easier to avoid your truth.
To change this current behavior and get honest you will need to figure out what excuses you are using.
Here are 3 great excuses to not be honest with yourself.
Do you ever get stuck in your head and can’t get out? It’s easy to become locked in a thought or obsess about something, which can lead you to feeling helpless. Here are 3 ways to get out of your head and get on with your life.
Are you looking to find your best life? You do have the ability to improve the relationship with yourself and others. Let me help you along the way.
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