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In last week’s post, I shared how you can use failure as a pivot and motivation to find a new opportunity. This week I want to remind you that you are good enough. You can improve your self-esteem, self-image, and the narrative in your mind with these reminders.
You need to see the proof and evidence that you are enough. In your relationship, friendships, job, and family, you are good enough. If you don’t believe me, here are five reminders.
1. You have been through much harder things in life.
The current situation you are facing may lead you to question if you have what it takes. There is no need to ask this question. You have the strength it takes to get through it. You have done it before and you will do it again.
2. Don’t expect an ordinary and normal life.
No one has an ordinary life without challenges and obstacles. You weren’t dealt ordinary and normal circumstances in life. You have been through situations that some people wouldn’t even believe were true. You survived all of them. Your determination, intuitiveness, and perseverance are what keeps your head above water. You are an extraordinary person so why would you expect to have an ordinary life.
3. You keep putting one foot in front of the other.
You always bounce back when faced with adversity. No matter what obstacles come your way, you keep moving forward. You don’t give up unless you have given it your all. You are resilient and able to bounce back after hard times. This is proof that you are good enough to handle whatever life throws at you.
4. No one can give you more validation than you can.
It feels good to hear from others of how well you are doing. However, the best validation is when you can give it to yourself. You often don’t want to hear others when they compliment you. The best validation is when you give yourself credit. You don’t expect someone to fill you up and you know that it’s your job to do this.
5. You know that you are all you have.
You know how to reach out to friends or your partner when you need support. However, you realize that at the end of the day, you are solely responsible for caring for yourself. If you don’t do it, no one will do it for you. Your independence and honesty with yourself is a huge strength. You aren’t in denial and value your realistic outlook. You know that through hard work, you can accomplish your goals.
Create your own reminder
Every one of us has a small voice inside that tries to guide us along our path. Sometimes we listen to it and other times when we don’t want to hear it, so we ignore it. I want you to embrace your inner voice and allow it to help you to move forward. If it has a negative message, challenge, and change. Make it work for you versus against you. Begin to create a reminder of why you are good enough.
What are your internal messages or narrative that help you stay positive? What helps you remember just how strong of a person you are? Share them with me in the comment section below. Next week, I will share what I learned about myself and life in 2017.
Are you looking to find your best life? You do have the ability to improve the relationship with yourself and others. Let me help you along the way.
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