You feel frustrated and irritated that you can’t accomplish your goals. You can’t figure out why you keep hitting a road block. Do you feel that you give it your all and you still can’t complete your goals? Have you thought about changing jobs? Have you tried to lose weight but can’t? Do you want to leave your unhealthy relationship but can’t decide what’s best?
Is your fear allowing you to remain stuck? If you are ready to take action to overcome your fear, and live your life, then these three steps are for you.
Step 1: Identify your fears
We consume an astounding amount of information daily from social media, the news, watching TV, and at work. Often, we don’t take the time to practice self-care and turn off our minds. This can cause your fears to grow in intensity because you don’t take the time to examine them. You are time poor and you are trying to survive day to day. However, you spend too much time over thinking your fears.
The first step is to identify your actual fears. I want you to think about what the voice inside your head is telling you. Think about what you really fear. Make a list of these fears. Don’t be lazy and avoid this, you have to list them out. Answer the following questions for each fear.
Step 2: What proof do you have that your fears will come true?
Now take your list of fears and get ready to examine the evidence or proof. If you had to go to court to prove your fear is real, would you win? Fear is based in the unknown so it is impossible to know what an outcome will be. That’s where you have to decide if you are ready to take a risk. Now that you better understand what your fear is you are ready to assess the risk.
The second step is to examine the proof you have that your fears will come true. Take your list and examine these questions with each fear. Write out your answers.
Step 3: Get on with your life and over your fears
Now comes the fun part. You have identified your fear and explored the likelihood that it probably won’t come true. You are ready to get on with your life. You are ready to break free from you fear that has kept you caged and stuck.
Here’s how you can move forward.
You can do this!
You have done harder things in your life than explore your fears. Look at all the things you have been through and you survived them. This means that you do have the strength to work through and overcome your fears. The next time you fear something, identify the specific fear, examine the proof behind the fear, and move through it. You deserve happiness and freedom, the only way to achieve this is to overcome your fears.
What did you fear in the past that you were able to overcome? How did you accomplish this? What are your current fears? Share them with me in the comment section below. Ready to take more action, be sure to sign up through email for new content.
Dr. Kristie specializes in sex therapy, relationships, and transgender identities.
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